HOLY FUCK?!?! Did James Deen Rape Stoya?

Earlier this year I got into a pissing match about the subject of rape in porn with a guy in the industry named Stewart. He actually went as far as to try and use his position to try and get me banned from an adult industry community because I reported on this site what he said in regards to his views. When confronted, I refused to back down because to me, rape isn’t a subject matter to take lightly.

Now in the matter of Stewart and I, we were both being immature little ass hates debating the subject of fictional or simulated rape. Not even something that was real. Because truth is, nobody in our industry should ever have to debate the horror that is real rape. So both Stewart and I were free to fight to the bloody virtual death over a subject matter that wasn’t really real. We were fighting over a concept, not a reality.

But not everyone is so lucky. Sometimes the very real issue of rape, not on camera acting, rears its ugly head. And that is not okay.

The first time I heard about a girl getting raped on set I couldn’t even wrap my head around it. I was sure there was no way in hell such a story could be true. Surely in our industry, one that prides itself in putting women first, would never have such issues.

I was wrong.

By the time I heard about a second girl being raped (by someone completely different and unrelated to the first incident), the guy who was accused of raping the first girl I had heard about was arrested on a college campus after being accused of raping another girl. Only this time the girl wasn’t some porn star, she was a sorority sister, and so the police took her complaint serious.

I begged the second girl to go to the police. I was naive and stupid. I really believed that if a girl was brutally raped and beaten the police would do something, right? I was wrong. Oh so fucking wrong. They were really ass holes about it and that moment in my life really changed the way I viewed the police as a whole.

With the help of some wonderful people in the industry, they were able to help the girl in question. She’s no longer in porn and from what I understand just finished a two year nurses aid program.

Why am I telling you all this story? Because I want you to understand that rape isn’t something that doesn’t happen in our industry … it’s just something that nobody ever talks about. It sure as fuck does happen and you know what? It happened recently to Christy Mack.

That was probably the first time in the last 20 years that I’ve been in the industry, that it not only happened but was openly talked about. Christy Mack was brutally beaten and raped by her ex-boyfriend, War Machine. He is currently on trial for that crime, among others. His defense was that it doesn’t count as rape because she’s a porn star and likes it like that.

A former MMA fighter accused of the attempted rape and murder of his ex-girlfriend has claimed he could not have sexually assaulted her because of the work she did as an adult film actress.  Mr Sua also claimed her performances showed “the desire, the preference, the acceptability towards a particular form of sex activities that were outside of the norm”.  

Ms Bluth responded: “Because she consented to those acts through her course of employment does not mean the defendant is then entitled to think he can do that to her.” Mack, 24, was hospitalised with a lacerated liver, 18 broken bones and two teeth missing following the alleged brutal assault. 

Koppenhaver is accused of letting himself into her house and assaulting Mack and her friend Corey Thomas, who was staying over at the time. 

Koppenhaver, 33, broke into the room and started beating Thomas first, according to Mack’s account of the night. Mack immediately dialled 911 and left the phone beside the bed throughout the incident. A voice can be heard screaming in disturbing footage from the call featured in the segment. Source [The Independent UK]

That story on its own is about as fucked up as it gets … you would think. But then you would be wrong. Because the accusations of rape didn’t end there.

Just a few days later news broke that Stoya was raped by her then boyfriend James Deen. The one guy, most people look to as THE it guy in the industry.

Let me be clear here …. no one rape is worse than another. Every rape is fucked up. Every person who has to go through this is a victim equally. It’s just that sometimes a story comes out and you don’t expect it. Case in point … you hear Charlie Sheen is HIV positive and you can’t help but think, yeah we all kind of seen that one coming.

But you hear the industry darling might have raped another industry icon and you can’t help but be a little shocked by it.

Not saying that ANYONE EVER deserves to be raped or you would expect someone to rape anyone. OMG NEVER! I’m just saying that never in a zillion years did I expect to wake up one day and hear the news that James Deen was being accused of rape. I don’t know why. I just didn’t.

I want to leave you with Stoya’s own words. They are powerful and they should be taken serious. It doesn’t matter if she is or was a porn star. It doesn’t matter if she previously consented. No means no, even if she is a porn star. Never forget that. NO MEANS NO.

@Stoya: “That thing where you log in to the internet for a second and see people idolizing the guy who raped you as a feminist. That thing sucks. James Deen held me down and fucked me while I said no, stop, used my safeword. I just can’t nod and smile when people bring him up anymore.”

Update: Although it should go without saying … apparently I need to point out that while what Stoya said is heart breaking, there are always two sides to every story and we should remember that before making our judgement on what happened in this specific case. The point of my post was not to start a war with James Deen, but to simply make light of a very important issue that we as an industry never discuss. There is no way at this time to know exactly what happened in the Stoya and James Deen rape case.