This October, Skyhorse Publishing will release Absolute Mayhem, the hot, juicy, tell-all autobiography of adult porn star Monica Mayhem.
Monica’s new autobiography might raise a few eyebrows at home, but she’s ready to set the record straight on how a sports-mad teenager (she still won’t reveal her real name!) from a small town in Australia became one of America’s most celebrated porn stars… and gotten filthy rich doing it
Interesting issues addressed in the book:
Chapter One: "Mother Dearest," which is about Monica’s abusive mother and so far the most powerful chapter that resonates with many people I’ve talked to who have read the book.
Chapter Seven: "Compilations and Violations," which is a real insider’s view of the adult film industry, something that you don’t tend to read every day and won’t get from anyone who isn’t really a ten-year veteran of the business.
Chapter Ten: "A Perfect Circle," which offers a rare perspective about spiritual practice, from someone who is a real-life witch!
Monica also discusses how the porn industry has changed because of the recession.
Monica Mayhem quotes:
“I’ve never been insecure about my body and it was easy to get naked”
“My dream was to become an actress.” She currently writes songs, performs burlesque shows throughout the US, and dreams or a record contract.
On doing porn: “Ironically, I found it easier to do it in front of cameras than when I was dancing in clubs. It’s hard to explain, but it’s less personal somehow. Even so, it took me a good six months – and a lot of scenes – to feel really confident.”
On being a sex symbol: “I was called ugly at school and, growing up with my Mum (who was abusive and an alcoholic), I never had much confidence or self-esteem. But going on set and being told that you look beautiful really boosts your confidence!”
On breast implants: “I got them for me, not the business. I’ve wanted them since I was 16 and I feel amazing with them.”
On shunning media in the past: “I’ve hidden from the media in the past out of concern for my family.” (Monica’s mother, an alcoholic, died of cirrhosis of the liver in 2005) “I’ve turned down 20/20 and Howard Stern… my career would have been bigger if I had done media.” But nowadays, even though her father “doesn’t exactly approve,” Monica finally has the confidence to run her own life. “It’s time to stop hiding”
On drug use: “I can’t give you an amount” she says of money she spent on drugs “I wasn’t exactly planning my finances – I was in party mode… but I regret drugs,” she says, clean since early 2007, “I got sick of waking up and feeling like hell and not achieving anything for two days.”
Monica discusses the serious occupational hazard of HIV and STDs: “I get scared every time I’m tested because there’s always something you can catch even with the precautions and testing. That’s why… I don’t shoot many scenes anymore. Even if I do one for my website, I’m worried.”
Monica to young girls trying to break into the business “get an education, so you have something to fall back on later. Your name and image are going to be out there for the rest of your life. Think about the future, and your relationships with your friends and family.”
Monica married her sometime co-star on a whim in Las Vegas in 2001. On relationships: “personal relationships are hard in this industry and it was stressful because guys get insecure. They want me to quit but I’m like “are you going to take care of me? Because I can’t exactly get a normal job now.”
On being her own harshest critic: “I watch all my own films… with a critical eye because it makes you a better performer.”
On fetish films: One had her sneezing into a tissue for two hours (Sneezing Beauties) “easiest money I ever made!” and another one had her kicking a Japanese man in the testicles until his eyes watered “It’s a fetish called Tamakeri and I had to think about it for three months before I said yes. I am a kick boxer after all!”
How is that different from any other porn star’s bio?
it’s different because someone is being honest about it.
You guys think all of us are from this molestation / drug addicted / abused / neglected upbringings but it isn’t that way in a lot of cases. I think some girls get used to getting their way due to their looks as teenagers then they realize they can use that to make money at a strip club or whatever and if you happen to have access to the porn biz then it’s another leap. think of all the girls working on webcams…you think they all got fondled and beaten by daddy or unlce frank?
Please. Monica Mayhem is neither one of America’s most celebrated porn stars, nor is she filthy rich.
Exaggerate much?
True Mortician, and neither are the women who you assume are.
You go Miss Mayhem.
The girl put herself out there, and truthfully, most likely it wasn’t in an effort to gain fame, money or entertain the masses. She needed to get some things off her chest – when a woman such as herself writes, it’s the equivalent of going to confessional – something that a bunch of hypocrital men came up in an effort to alleviate their own guilt.
Women have very little in this world that they can do in order to validate and explain their actions and choices, especially when they choose a path which enables their survival yet hinders their chances of being seen as “legitimate”.
So to the men out there who jack off to this hottie, yet condemn her – you’d better pray that there’s nothing to the concept of reincarnation, because most likely you’ll be the one’s coming back into the life of a cute asian female born into a brothel who’s inherited a lifelong’s worth of debt to the owner.
“So to the men out there who jack off to this hottie, yet condemn her – you’d better pray that there’s nothing to the concept of reincarnation,”
MF, you’re right–I don’t want to be reincarnated as a sex slave. But so many girls are abused in the industry I don’t know if I want to jack off to porn at all. Its depressing but girls shouldn’t have to hide it. Maybe its the system that’s the problem.
Maybe sex workers are victims and the adult industry is fundamentally wrong.
Maybe it’s simply American society in it’s self that is “wrong”. The adult entertainment industry is just a manifestation of what’s “wrong” – yet strangely it’s so right in my view.
In my opinion the adult entertainment industry is just a “holding cell” (and entertainment for the masses) for women such as Mayhem, myself and many others, until they can figure out what’s what, and where they wanna go.
Hell, this industry is most likely the most “honest” industry that any woman can enter who doesn’t fit (or refuses to fit) into the lie that American society tries to force women into.
Personal responsibility???????? Once you become a mature adult when do you have to take responsibility?
Most people go though different trials and tribulations. You reach a point to where you have to say hey sorry but you now have to join the rest of society and deal. The lie is that ones abhorrent behavior is the norm and the rest of “American” society is abnormal. This is an excuse for self absorb, passive aggressive sycophants. Stop living in your delusional bubble of this business. I wish nothing but the best for all of you. Be well and do what is right.