Definition of ‘Douche Bag’…
by Jayden Jaymes from her myspace page.
About six months ago, I met this guy. Wait… Before I go any further, let me explain how we ‘met’… LOL!
So, I’m traveling with my friend Lynda. I’m up in the hotel room and she’s in the lobby talking to the front desk. This guy, ‘Art’, approaches her. “Hey, you’re Jayden’s friend, right?”
“Ummm… Yeah…“Oh, hi! I’m Art… I’m a friend of *****’s…” Blah, blah, blah…
So, Lynda gets back to the room and starts telling me that she met my friend Art. I’m looking at her funny and I finally speak up: “Who’s Art?”
“He says he knows you. He’s one of *****’s friends. He approached me in the lobby….”
Anyway, we get to talking a little and I have absolutely no idea who this guy is, but apparently we have some of the same friends. But how the hell did he know who Lynda was? He’s never met me, let alone my friend, and how did he know she was with me there? Weird!
So, we attend the event that we’re there to attend and, what do you know? He has the seats right next to us! Geez! He introduced himself to me and whatnot (Yeah, I had never met him before, just to confirm it.), and then he continues to talk throughout the entire event. Seriously, he never shut up! He was one of those name dropper kind of people! “I know this person and that person, and I got the hookups with this company and that club…” He even went as far as to bring up my work (which, I hadn’t mentioned… He knew!) and told me and my friend about a makeup artist that he ‘hooks up’ with. (It just so happened that we both know that makeup artist and he didn’t have a chance in hell with her! And she later confirmed that he NEVER happened! lol.) I mean, the guy would just not shut about about how cool he thought he was! OH MY GOD! (It wasn’t until dinner the next night with everyone MINUS HIM that my friend and I were filled in: He’s one of those ‘friends’ that is really irritating and always mooching off everyone and people are nice to him because he’s really never done anything wrong but still everyone talks shit behind his back. You know the kind! lol.) So, before this event is even over, Art keeps trying to get Lynda and I to leave with him and head to the after party. Ummm… NO! I told him we had a car waiting for us and we’re going with the official sponsors of the event. (And he thought HE had the hookups… Ha! That shut him up pretty quick!)
Oh, it also turns out that homeboy didn’t have quite the hookups that he thought he did because he sure had a hell of a time trying to get into our VIP section at the club… Even though he was ‘best friends’ with all everyone there!
Moving on… I got a text about an hour ago… Something like, “I was approached by one of *****’s friends and he asked if I banged you.” Mind you, my friend that sent me this text is over on the East coast right now and we all live in California. So that’s just weird. Then, I get a little more info and I guess he asked straight asked my friend if he fucked me in this particular city that we were all in that night! WOW!!! Who actually asks a question like that??? That can’t possibly be a normal thing that one guy asks another guy that he doesn’t really know, can it? I mean, that’s just RUDE! And I think about it a little, and the guy’s just a fucking douche bag, that’s clear! But to me, all I’m thinking is: This guys knows I’m a porn star, so he probably just assumes that I would’ve fucked him anyway. Plus, since I’m a porn star, it’s okay to asks things like that since I’m just a whore and I don’t have any feelings anyway, right? It’s not like I’m a real person or anything anyway, right? Honestly, if I were just another girl with a ‘normal’ job (as according to society standards), a question like that would’ve never been asked under such circumstances. It’s one thing for close FRIENDS to say something like, “Dude, I saw you left the bar with that hot blonde last night… So, did you bang her?” But you don’t ask someone that you don’t know if he fucked a porn stat that you also don’t know. (I feel like I’m rambling… Did that make sense???)
I would’ve LOVED to have been there and fucking punched him! (Of course, given the event/circumstances, my friend couldn’t… DAMNIT! lol.)
Anyway, the whole purpose to be blabbing on and on right now was just because I’m irritated. (Damn mother nature! lol.) But honestly, I think that a lot of brainless people, like this guy, think like this. I mean, y’all wouldn’t believe the amount of fucking RETARDED questions that I get on a daily basis (as I’m sure a lot of porn girls do): How many times a day do you have sex? How many times a day do you finger yourself? How many guys have you fucked in one day? Have you ever gone a day without fucking someone? I have an eight inch cock… Wanna come fuck me?
Are you fucking kidding me??? Yeah, I’m this big fucking whore running naked up and down Ventura Blvd. in broad daylight looking for guys to screw because I just can’t get enough dick!
Seriously?!?!?! I know I have a pretty good sized following, and people that actually read my blogs and pay attention know me and know that I’m the complete polar opposite. I have a JOB, like everyone else. I go, I do it, I get paid, and I want to go home and get on with my life. I’m single, yes, but I’m not easy. I don’t go to bars looking for a hookup. The only sex I ever have is on camera. I don’t sleep with someone unless I really know them and really like them. Again, it’s just a fucking job… It has absolutely no reflection on who I am as a person… Get over it!
I do know that it takes a certain kind of person (a ‘different’ kind of person) to be able to do what I (what WE) do. It really does. It takes a STRONG person to be able to separate yourself like that and be able to draw a line between the two. And this is where the good get separated from the bad (the crackhead whores, as most like to say). I’ve managed to keep my two lives separate and live a pretty “normal” life outside of work… That is, until douche bags start asking dumbass questions like the aforementioned!
I know it’s never going to be a successful measure, but I’d love if the entire world just opened their eyes, their minds and their hearts and could accept ‘different’ people and treat them like ‘regular/normal’ people. We all have minds, hearts, feelings, and souls on the inside… Show a little bit of respect!
*A side note on why I think I flipped out a little over this guy Art: I really like this ‘friend’ of mine. And I mean I REALLY like him. And it’s a fucking stupid comment like that that I think would make my friend second guess me and what he could be possibly getting himself into a little. I don’t want that nor do I need that in my life as I’m sure he doesn’t want/need that in his life.
“Plus, since I’m a porn star, it’s okay to asks things like that since I’m just a whore and I don’t have any feelings anyway, right? It’s not like I’m a real person or anything anyway, right?”
Girl got smart, she got her answer right in her questions.
I totally feel for her: “there’s such a double standerd when women decide to make porn or escort.” Even with the BIGGEST FREAKS, last night I dated a cute guy who’s 2 years younger then me, whom I found out I had diched years earlier and I couldn’t remember why? So we started talking: he told me that he thought the reason I ditched him was because he was into tranies. “NOPE!” I said: I just had moved on and lost contact, because I started dating someone else. Then I did the big NO-NO and told him that I had made porn in the past and had just shot a Japanes porno with their crew the previous day… He asked: ” how was that?” Fine! After which he told me he had done a year and a half of councelling, to become a women! (In my mind, I’m like holy fuck!), I mean the guy dresses like a rocker plays quitar and drums, and rodies for Ozzy, (too funny!) I didn’t start laughing out loud, I was cool… So we smoked half a joint in the allie, next to the movie theater. All I said when we were there is: you love women so much that you wanna be one, (but I was thinking DUDE, you just want some dick!), so he told me about all the diffrent types of Victoria Secreat shit he had bought out of the catalog, (I’m praying at that point that he’d just shut the fuck up about it, before we got to the movie theater because I get embaressed by stupid shit like that), anyway: “I told him I didn’t really like dressing up like an office women or school teacher, but because I alway’s have done MILF shit after getting the 20th aniversery cover of Older Babes, that that’s the nitch I was stuck in, and because I have been a striper for 10 years, that in REAL LIFE I hated dreasing in victoria and the other sexy shit, but when I do: I pick the sexiest shit!” So he goes on to tell me he almost had a (sex-change) but that he had decided NOT TO because his friends wouldn’t think that wasn’t too cool? And he didn’t want to lose the person he was, to become a person he’s not and doesn’t know, saying that not being able to recoqnize himself in the morning would be way to upsetting, but that he felt sexy as hell dressed like a “WOMEN” when he went to transexual bars. So I’m still cool and we saw the movie about having robots live your life for you with Bruce Willice, so there was 20 minutes before the end of th movie and he went to the bathroom; “now I’ve had guys go to the bathroom durring movies, but this asshole never came back, the movie ended no guy.” So I slit durring the ending credits. Now he could have done this because he’s SUPPER GAY, or because he didn’t like the fact that I made porn, or because he wanted to play dress up with some dude or have sex with a prostitute TS dude?” Either way: “I wasn’t upset, I was PISSED!” Because I listened to all his disgusting B.S drama/problems: because I made porn this douch-bag had a problem after what he told me? So I called his ass and cussed his bitch-ass out, and told this weird MF that I’m not here so some no-dick having MF can do mean things to me, so he can feel better about himself! And if I had really wanted to see an f-ing movie I would have stayed in my neck of the woods because I hate that shit-whole called North Ho-wood and don’t hang there at night, so sleazy armo’s and mexicans can stare me down, while I’m standing in front of Burger King waiting for my driver. So I told him to lose me f-ing number and I was never going to sleep with his nasty-TS-f-ing ass anyway. I was being nice and wanted to end the date and split, cus I’m cool like that, even if I don’t like your ass: I will (hold my breath and finish the date!) But that’s the double standard I was talking about, a guy could suck my dildoe, take my dildoe or butt plug in his ass, watch beastiality films, have fantasys of sex with people in his family, dress like a woman, suck and f other dudes, or want to be a women, be into S&M, or have sex on top of pool toys. But if a women has or wants to make porn: “she’s the anti-christ?” Men make no M-Fing sense so I never ussually tell guys what up, but you’d think the freaky basterds would understand?
sophia, do you still wear a clit ring?
shoot. lostbutterfly’s life is like j.g. ballard hanging out with jack kerouac in hollywood at night. nice work.
Yes I still have my clit ring…
Dang, Jade. Ain’t nothing wrong with gay people but that guy was a straight up faggot. Even if he was yanking your chain, that guy was a piece of shit. Anyway, his loss.
Thanks… your right, who knows maybe he was jacking-off in the mens room. He really was not my type, to skinny and I don’t like guys with long hair or go-t’s no offense to guys who do that… have you ever had point in your life were you dated but just didn’t “care” about datting or being love?
“Seriously?!?!?! I know I have a pretty good sized following, and people that actually read my blogs and pay attention know me and know that I’m the complete polar opposite. I have a JOB, like everyone else. I go, I do it, I get paid, and I want to go home and get on with my life. I’m single, yes, but I’m not easy. I don’t go to bars looking for a hookup. The only sex I ever have is on camera. I don’t sleep with someone unless I really know them and really like them. Again, it’s just a fucking job… It has absolutely no reflection on who I am as a person… Get over it!”
I am agree with Jayden
I know that many girls working in porn are perfect whores and some of them are escorting anyway Why don’t believe Jayden? Why don’t believe she only fucks on camera like a job? Not all the porn stars are whores. I don’t know Jayden at all but I think that everyone needs respect even she was a great cocksucker with tree penis in her mouth plus if she is a normal person out of her job.
Jayden Jaymes – “I feel like I’m rambling… Did that make sense???”
Yes, you are — none of what you said makes any sense — and didn’t you quit the business because too many of your female peers were supplementing their incomes with privates?
Can Porn Valley ban together to give this chick enough work so she’ll stay off the computer and never blog any idiotic rants about her dull life ever again….
Um . . .
If you choose to get famous for being a whore, don’t get mad when people treat you like you’re one.
Is there are double standard?
Um . . . . yeah
Deal with it or go back to servin’ french fries.
Same goes for whores like Hilton, Kardashian and people like that.
I love how people believes that freedom of speech and freedom of expression means freedom from JUDGMENT.
yessir Pres
Hey president for life with nuts for brains, you should STOP talking about your relatives like that, they be working hard making those french fries.
“If you choose to get famous for being a whore, don’t get mad when people treat you like you’re one.”
Last I checked, Jayden Jaymes isn’t exactly burning up the charts…
Fame is often a whore, but in this case, it’s not even a bitchy rambling whore.
sammy, i got three lines in and i realised i was wasting my time. no one rambles like this self important, big mouth, whore.
worse than that load of shit she’s hammered out – the idiot fanboi who hangs off every word of it.
i can imagine her blog is littered with responses from facile fucks, squealing with delight about her strong choices, and independence.
Jayden kvetches more than Woody Allen in one of his early films!
Somebody shall get porn mopes to put one cock in her mouth and one in each hand to prevent that.
If only Jayden did anal, then one could hope for her to become ‘airtight’, so we’d have some hope of a respite from her composing another stupid rant about a dirtbag trying to pick up her cellulite & KFC filled ass.
Why do people call male talent mopes? I’ve met a few douchbag male talent or male porn star’s, but for the most part their cool. If you hang with one, he won’t trip about porn or striping, he won’t care if your banging other guy’s as long as you don’t flake on banging him and the sex is always off the hook! What’s not to like? Vinilla guys who aren’t in XXX: bitch, wine, and complaign about everything, but most of all, vinilla guy’s try to “controll”. And I love my freedom so Mr. Vinilla isn’t going to work for me…
Mopes is not a singular term for male porn talent. I believe credit goes to Mike John for coming up with the term — but basically, a Mope is a guy in porn who can’t keep a hard-on, or cums to quickly, for the time required to do a regular scene (B/G, or multiple B/G combinations).
So Mopes, who I would assume are cheaper than regular male talent, are usually just used for blowbang/bukkaki scenes — for if they’re going to have problems staying hard, they can at least be off camera for most of the scene jerking off (before they’re need for a few seconds of BJ footage). The director isn’t losing any time waiting for the male talent to get hard…as there’s enough guys to get the shots he needs. Plus, if the guy cums too early, that can just be edited for later to look as if he came around the same time as everyone else.
Mopes also might be used for small gangbangs; but you run the risk of some of the guys either coming too fast, or not being able to get it up (so you’d probably not want to use them for a shoot with expensive female talent). I suppose if you’re smart, like Vouyer does with his Don’t Waste It Taste It series, you just incorporate the quicker than usual money shots into the scene (as often they end with the girl taking facials or cum swallowing while getting banged, instead of having all of the guys pop within moments of each other when needed to).
Yet you’d be foolish to use a Mope for a typical B/G scene, as he’d either cum too quickly (and you wouldn’t get enough footage) or he’d waste everyone’s time struggling to stay hard.
Hey Jayden; What ever happen to the Talent agency you where going to start out there in GAYLAY??? You where looking for all these females and all of a sudden these dude there on the phones where supposely recruiting for you???? some thing isn’t right about this!!!!!
Pornodudestud — didn’t you carefully read her rant?
As a mediocre porn chick, Jayden is far too busy beating off with a 12 inch dildo all of the guys who ‘get up in her grill’ 24/7 to be concerned with her getting an agency biz off the ground.
Besides, she’s a ‘different kind of person’ in the Jizz Biz. As Jayden is a STRONG woman who separates fucking jerk-offs on film, with fucking jerk-offs who come up to her in bars and try their sleazy pick-up lines on her.
Butterfly. . .
I DO have members of my family who work at Rally’s, McDonalds, Popeyes, and all kinds of other fast food restaurants, and that’s fine, until they get something better, but they are not DEFINED by those jobs, because they are not FAMOUS for doing said jobs, and if they were, I’d say the same things to them. If they were famous for making french fries and they got offended because people asked them for french fry recipes, it’d be just as stupid. You think Bob Vila doesn’t constantly get home and gardening questions? Of course he does. That’s what he’s famous for.
If you choose to get famous for taking bukkakes to the face and doing anal and being a slut, then people are gonna judge you in that way and define you in that way. There’s nothing you or anybody else can do about that. Freedom of speech is not freedom from judgment.
Sammy, my definition of a mope is more comprehensive than that but third and fourth tier talent deserves the designation.
Jayden, on the other hand, is attractive and can perform a lot better than many in the industry. I think she had a few decent points in her original blog posting, contrary to what the crowd suggests…
Well, I’m just sitting on the sidelines Houstondon — so I’d only offered up what little I’ve heard about the term (but would like to hear the more comprehensive definition).
Which is to say, I wouldn’t put someone like Arnold Schwartzenpecker or even Frank Wank in that category, so I wasn’t necessarily bagging on the 3rd/4th rate woodsmen.
As for Jayden, I’m criticizing her rambling nonsense of a blog post more than her as a performer. Personally, I’d put her in the vast middle of porn chicks. She’s not an incredible camera lay, but she’s not a lazy fuck with dollar signs in her eyes. I do think she needs to hit the gym a little more and needs to get over herself…
Besides, she’s a ‘different kind of person’ in the Jizz Biz. As Jayden is a STRONG woman who separates fucking jerk-offs on film, with fucking jerk-offs who come up to her in bars and try their sleazy pick-up lines on her.
Sammy, When you read a blog like the Jayden’s blog in this case, you can see that not all PW are stupids. Why not giving them respect? I am agree with you.
President of (Dope Land), I was popular at a SWINGERS CLUB called Freedom Achers, I met an X-porn star named Jeff James, the first time we had sex in one of their cubicles wtih glass you could look into but not out of, we had sex the first time for 2 hours. With 25 people watching, when we were finished people were appluading. So after 15 times of sex like that I fiqured I should get into the XXX industry, because I knew that (open minded people, not ‘judgemental’ vinilla fucks like yourself would understand and get off watching it!) And that was my personal reason besides the money, for making porn. (Not to become famouse!) It was more like documenting the great sex I have. AKA. The girl with ‘GREAT PUSSY’ as all the guys who are ‘lucky enough’ to sleep with me say…
If you agree with me, I don’t understand the question….
Truth be told, when I read a blog post like Jayden’s, it gives me the OPPOSITE impression of a porn chick being ‘intelligent’. As if she was she 1) probably wouldn’t have written it in the first place 2) if she still felt the need to tell the entire world about a silly episode in her life, she would have been brief and more concise 3) see one and two.
My problem with a porn chick like Jayden, is that she thinks EVERY SINGLE FUCKING EVENT IN HER LIFE is 110% amazingly interesting. Granted, some of it is; but it takes her forever and a day to get to her point (she doesn’t like it when rude poseurs hit on her) and when she does get to the good part (it made her question her friend’s judgement in friends and who she finds ‘sexually attractive’), it’s treated as a post script/side note to the entire blog.
Newsflash to Jayden Jaymes, you’re a relatively attractive woman with big tits, big ass and a small waist — GUYS ARE GOING TO FUCKING HIT ON YOU. Sure, you probably want those guys to have names like Clooney, Leo, Pitt or Smith, but that’s life. Jayden, please…get over yourself!
Sam one thing is being stupid another very different giving respect to those “stupid girls”. Probably she is not the most intelligent girl in the classroom but at least she can write some paragraphs asking for respect in her blog, most of those porn chicks don’t have any idea about how to write 5 lines without telling a lot of stupidities. I don’t give a shit about the story Jayden is talking about I only read between the lines…
I see is that is very normal here in LIB talk a lot of shit about porn stars. Probably some of them deserve it but I guess that a great part of them not. It‘s only my humble opinion.
I think she is in the wrong industry if she believes that guys care about her brain or anything like that.
“Politicians, ugly buildings, and whores all get respectable if they last long enough.”
If Jayden has a long career, she’ll get all the respect due to her.
Man it’s not that serious: “it’s allways just been porn”, read a strory I fixed and posted on my site: regarding why the XXX biz is in the shiter–on {xxxworldofporn.com}… I believe that porn star should have the right to ACT any-way they want to act (because they’re risking they’re lifes and future happiness, so you, I and everyone else can BUST A NUT!) That in and of itself diserves our respect!
sophia, going to do a cover of salt n’ peppa’s 80’s hit “push it real good”, instead its “PUSSY”S REAL GOOD”!!!
Butterfly,
The overwhelming majority of people are gonna judge you for what you do. You have to know that when you get into the business, right?
So, why act surprised when they do it?
I’m not a vanilla fuck and have no problem with porn or pornstars, just the DELUSIONAL thought processes many of you have. Just what exactly do you think most people are going to think of you? That you’re a “respectable” take home to ma type of girl?
Of course not, and if you don’t care what people think about you, then why does it annoy you guys when people look at you, like you portray yourselves, which is as sluts and hoes?
You don’t see the male porn stars with this constant need to justify their existence. They seem to just say, “Hey, I fuck bitches for a living, big deal” and kind of get on with it. They’re not all like Sasha Grey or Jayden or Kayden, trying to convince everybody that they’re super geniuses and trying to constantly prove that they’re super feminists and empowering women or something.
Ron Jeremy seems like one of the most easy going guys in the world. He looks like he’s having fun most of the time. That’s why VH1 and mainstream America even loves the guy.
From the outside looking in, I just don’t see the attitudes from the guys that you guys have. Nobody forced you guys to pick the jobs you have. You could’ve been like my family members who serve french fries, and NOBODY would look at you guys as hoes or sluts, but you guys chose a high-profile job, where you videos are seen all over the world, with you guys taking on 2, 3, or 4 guys and doing all kinds of shit, that makes most people in the world blush, so either get over the fact that people are gonna judge you as hoes, or don’t get into the business.
You can’t have it both ways. Own it, instead of fighting it.
President4Life, you are spewing absolute bullshit. You have NO idea what fans think of female talent that is absolutely out of line. Yes, female pornstars have copious sex on camera for cash. By that definition they are whores but that doesn’t mean they are constantly horny or that they would have sex with anyone, or that they should be treated like they are subhuman. They have a right to live normal lives off the set, don’t you think? Not sitting around entertaining propositions for cock every moment of their public lives or taking insults by people that don’t even know them. Deranged fans who think otherwise need to be set straight.
And as for your demented allusion to the persona male porn stars, last I checked most hetero males were not seen as dirty, subhuman, losers for having sex with many different women.
Pornstars have to deal with all kinds of public perceptions but they too have a right to dignity and a right to express it.
BTW, show some respect and get a new username. We already have The President.
ADT alert.
What you mean, Harvey?
origen01 “Yes, female pornstars have copious sex on camera for cash. By that definition they are whores but that doesn’t mean they are constantly horny or that they would have sex with anyone, or that they should be treated like they are subhuman.”
Come’on! For better or for worse, a lot of people in this world are defined by their occupation/career. You don’t think that Donald Trump is constantly asked goofy questions about the stock market or real estate, people think Bill Gates can diagnosis their broken laptop, or that Michael Jordan can look at your jump shot and in seconds tell you how to improve it so you can score a NBA contract?!
Conversely, there are people who think just because you go on a reality TV show or held a public office, you’ve given up all rights to life a private life once the cameras are off and there’s no more public policies to decide on.
People are going to think that those who do porn, men and women, are sex addicts, losers, fuck-ups, trailblazers, sexual pioneers, depraved morons, brilliant businesspeople, yadda yadda yadda.
Just because you have sex on film, doesn’t excuse you from all and any negatives that come from such activity. Jayden and everyone else in Porn Valley knows the good and bad that comes from what they do. So why make excuses for their decisions…
Man: (it’s not that SERIOUS guys!), look, there is all kinds of difrent people in every diffrent profession: “but that should not define who we are!”
This isen’t a perfect world and there are NO perfect people; from real stars to porn stars (they’re just people [not-Gods] like you and me… I’ve loved a few (some are gone, one remains and he’s defenently ABOVE AVERAGE in every way and I adore him) and left a few, but the main point is ALL porn stars have feellings. So if it isen’t aprobriate for a non xxx performer its probably going to offend us too.
There was a child molester who worked at a piza place: who had the boy tied up and then imprissoned in his pad. (A pizza guy!) Just because people have nice jobs does not mean they are nice peope!
If you are gonna become a cop you run the risk of getting shot. It’s wrong for someone to shoot you, but the shit might happen anyway. Same principle. If you are gonna be a whore, people are gonna treat you like one. That’s what our society does, puts individual values on people. If they don’t like how it is the money can always console them or they can stop altogether.
and President, comment no 33 “You don’t see the male porn stars with this constant need to justify their existence. They seem to just say, “Hey, I fuck bitches for a living, big deal” and kind of get on with it”
I know this one never was loser in porn who believes being a nobody in porn and banging low level drug addicts past middle age is the coolest shit on Earth
“Come’on! For better or for worse, a lot of people in this world are defined by their occupation/career. You don’t think that Donald Trump is constantly asked goofy questions about the stock market or real estate, people think Bill Gates can diagnosis their broken laptop, or that Michael Jordan can look at your jump shot and in seconds tell you how to improve it so you can score a NBA contract?!”
People have a right to whatever opinion they got but pornstars also have a right to defend their dignity. People may think all sorts of shit of Donald Trump, Bill Gates, or Michael Jordan but these individuals carry themselves with self respect letting people know when they cross the line. Pornstars like Jayden James should do the same.
I’m not saying the disrespect is right, but what I am saying is that judgment is going to happen.
It’s like if I walk around with a green mohawk, I’m probably not gonna get the job at the bank, I’ve been trying to get. In an ideal world, it wouldn’t matter, but this is Earth and it does matter.
If you choose to get into a profession, especially one like porn, in a country that is as conflicted about sex as America is, you have to expect a certain disdain from some people, and a certain fascination from others. I’ll bet you get all kinds of gifts from fans and admirers that you wouldn’t get, if you weren’t all over the internet in porn.
Britney Spears is judged everyday, so is A-Rod, so is Eminem, and plenty of other non-porn figures. They were smart enough(or talented enough) to get into professions that make them millions and allows them to hire bodyguards, public relations, and whatever else they need to combat public pressure.
In porn, you’re almost like a glorified reality-show contestant. You’re famous, have done things that would embarrass most people on camera, but you don’t get rich enough to combat the public pressure.
It’s not fair, but it is expected. There’s been what. . . 4 generations of porn stars in this country? You should know what to expect by now.
If you become president, you have to deal with assassination attempts. If you do porn, you have to deal with the whole world believing you’re a slut and treating you in that manner. That’s just how it is.
And no I’m not changing my name. I’m not “The President”, I’m President for Life, go to Wikipedia and learn the difference.
“I’m not saying the disrespect is right, but what I am saying is that judgment is going to happen. ”
OKAY. Now let’s bring that thought back to original article. Jayden James wrote a blog entry showing how certain fan behavior is not acceptable with her. What’s so wrong with that?
Well Origen01, what’s wrong with Jayden and a lot of other porn chick’s attitude is precisely what you actually pointed out in comment #40.
Which is that in regards to famous and non-porn occupations mentioned, those individuals ‘carry’ themselves with a certain amount of ‘self-respect’. Now I myself, would characterize that as staying ‘above the fray’. For example, someone talks smack to Trump — is he going to go blog about it, or go on TV and bitch and moan? No. He goes on with his life. If it’s really serious, he calls the lawyers in. That’s respecting yourself. When you do so, others will come to respect you.
Jayden doesn’t get, deserve, or warrant my respect (beyond fucking on camera sans protection) for the decisions she made that lead her to doing porn. Now, if she has a career as long and noteworthy as Nina Harley, Lisa Ann or even say Jenna Haze, then mad props and they get my lifelong respect for their career decisions (good and bad within reason).
Otherwise, Jayden is just a whinny bitch who thinks the world gives two fucks about a dumbass phony who tried to pick her up (and now she’s all conflicted because she sort of liked the guy and also, doesn’t know why her friends whom she likes would hang around such a person).
Jayden doesn’t seem to get that her story isn’t unique one iota. Nor does she even realize that the best part of the story, is her conflict over her friends, her friends’ friends and what kind of guy she’s attracted to. She should have written about that, and not nonsense you see play out in any nightclub across the world.
As Prez4Life notes, Porn Talent are one notch above Reality TV people. You’re doing embarrassing things on camera (taking loads to the face, swallowing cum, ATM, face fucking, multiple partners, talking dirty, salad tossing, et cetera) and all you often have to show for it is a few hundred to a thousand or so dollars. So how Jayden suddenly thinks the average person, let alone fan, is supposed to ONLY ask and wonder about her views on Healthcare, AfPak, or the global economy, is beyond me.
If she wanted people to look at her mind more than her big jiggly ass, she should have made a visit to the Columbia School of Journalism and not Anabolic’s offices…
“Jayden doesn’t get, deserve, or warrant my respect (beyond fucking on camera sans protection) for the decisions she made that lead her to doing porn.”
Fair enough. That’s your opinion. She is just making clear that some interactions with her are unacceptable.
“Which is that in regards to famous and non-porn occupations mentioned, those individuals ‘carry’ themselves with a certain amount of ’self-respect’. Now I myself, would characterize that as staying ‘above the fray’. For example, someone talks smack to Trump — is he going to go blog about it, or go on TV and bitch and moan? No. He goes on with his life. If it’s really serious, he calls the lawyers in. That’s respecting yourself. When you do so, others will come to respect you.”
How many times has Trump taken to the media to trash a person who insults him? Whether its some mope on the street or Rosie O’Donnell. Its one of his rules. Read “Think Big and Kick Ass” Good book.