MILF vs Cougar by Desi Foxxx

by Desi Foxxx of porninthevalley.com

I was surfing the forums this morning and came across a thread in Naughty America’s forum with a discussion about the term MILF (I was honored that I was included in the MILF and not GILF category even when going by age group lol. Thanks Baby!!). I’ve had this talk with many people, even before porn, and I’m always amazed at the different definitions out there for the term MILF. I’m also surprised at how many people have no idea what the term Cougar stands for and how many have never even heard of it. Sometimes, I wonder where these people live that they aren’t up on this stuff, LOL, especially in the adult and entertainment biz.

So, I decided to give my opinion on the subject. I figure I’m pretty close to an expert since I’ve been called a MILF since around 1988 and have now been a Pornstar MILF and Cougar for a year (yes, our 1st anniversary of going into Porn is 11/7 whohoo!!).

MILF really started as a term meant for any hot mom whose childrens friends think they’re hot. Remember, the teenagers came up with this term and then the adults picked it up and made it mainstream (somewhat). The friends tell the mom’s kids they want to fuck their mom because the mom is so hot. So the premise is the woman is older then the guy wanting to fuck her, by 15-20 years, old enough to be their mom, get it. I say guys but I’ve had girls tell my daughters I’m a MILF too lol.

My opinion is MILF is same as the term "soccer mom". Mainstream and real world can’t explain MILF because they’d have to use the word "fuck" so they came up with "soccer mom" to use. Again, remember it’s beginning, hot moms taking their pubescent sons to sports practice and the guys going "dude, your mom is so hot, I’d love to hit that" lol. Which makes the son want to beat their ass lol!

Boys in the thirtysomething range need to grow up and start using the Cougar term for the older women they lust after. While technically, I will always be a MILF, my kids are now grown. Hey, they’re adults having sex now too so we’re all on a level playing field. I don’t want to be thought of as "the Mom" anymore!

Now, I’m an independent woman, living on my own, a Cougar to those younger guys I date!! Cougar is the term for Moms who are still Hot when their kids are all grown up. We aren’t afraid to go after that younger guy and tap it. We aren’t afraid to flaunt it either. The MILF is more hesitant, doesn’t have the confidence a Cougar has. Has to be coaxed to fuck around. Remember, they’ve forgotten themselves to marry and raise children. Their sex drive is increasing and they want to fuck but they still feel like moms.

I’d say the older the Cougar, the more people are impressed with their attractiveness and assertive sexual appetite. Shit, if they’re still hot and having great sex with younger guys at 60, 70, 80, they deserve to be crowned a Queen Cougar, right!!!!! I sure hope I am so lucky

Not really as much about an age as much as about a moving from one stage in life to another. In the good ole days, women in their late teens and early 20s had babies (they were the hot, young and easy). Women in their 30s, their babies had grown to teens and the "hitting their sexual peak" MILFs got noticed and were in need of the attention boost. Women in their 40s, the kids were now in their 20s and in college and the Cougar (Mrs. Robinson) arrived. With women having children at all different ages now, it moves the spectrum around and confuses the issue