Amy Dickinson writes for the Chicago Tribune:
Dear Confused: Think about it. If you bring this up with your daughter, what’s the worst that can happen? Will this conversation prompt her to become an online porn presence? That already happened. Will she make poor choices that could affect her life for many years to come? Done.
I’m not sure how you know the details of your daughter’s contractual agreement with this online site or what led you to investigate this in the first place — perhaps you have an informant or otherwise suspected that your daughter was leading this life — but now it’s time for you to be honest with her.
Be frank, concerned and loving. Share your sense of alarm and your worries about her. Ask her why she is doing this — and listen to her response.
Your daughter is an adult. She is making choices that, while probably legal, are antithetical to her upbringing. You have a right and responsibility to continue to be her mother and attempt to guide her. You also may have to catch her when she falls. She needs to know that you’ll be a presence in her life — and that when she participates in this venture in the public sphere — her mother will be watching.
While the true impact of having a child involved in porn depends greatly on each family’s community standing and moral values, I’m of the opinion that parents have no ownership of their daughter’s sexuality.
They could of course withdraw any emotional and/or financial support they may have been extending up to that point but other than that she is her own person. Her vagina is hers to do with as she pleases, as was her mother’s, no?
Besides, most of the evil in this world is dished out by those whose parents wouldn’t hesitate to hold up as pillars of the community and role models to us all.
Yeah,she should be like the typical porn mom, “daugther, I do not like what you are doing but as long as you are happy keep doing it”.